It’s OCD. Every decision is an attempt at optimization, perfection, economy.
Don’t crack the egg for the pancake batter until the pan for the fried eggs is heated or you’ll have to wash hands twice and crack eggs twice.
Who cares? They’re fucking eggs!
You can’t use another knife to make this meal. You already used a knife and you put it in the dirty sink. You should have saved it to use again. Inefficient, bad for the environment. Stupid you! You get no more knives.
Don’t use too much soap. Only wash the dirty parts of your fingers or you’re doing it wrong. Don’t waste the water. Hurry up! The sausages will get burnt if you don’t turn them. The water is getting low; refill it.
This is all in the span of two minutes or less. All internal dialogue, though sometimes we talk back out loud or whimper. We are so tense that our muscles ache.
We need to fucking breathe.
Our method is to force air out on the end of the exhale by sucking in our abdomen. That frees us up for a deep in-breath. Then we exhale through pursed lips as if we’re blowing through a straw so that the exhale is longer in duration than the inhale. This starts to get our breath back.
This does nothing to quell the cause of our stress. We went to an OCD specialist a few years ago. He helped us be less afraid of germs. We can use door handles now, touch things.
Maybe we can get help again. It is exhausting to have these thoughts continually. It’s a kind of prison. We don’t make it to 2 pm without exhaustion and a frazzled mind. Scared. Cowed. Defeated. And then there is dinner to cook…
Thank you, OCD, for trying to keep us safe from alternately demanding and neglectful caregivers. You like control. It feels safe to you. We have more resources now that the body is grown up. Our current family doesn’t do those judgey things. They know already how imperfect we are. They accept us.
You have good awareness and fight for your wellbeing
I am proud of you
Wish I had a solution for you
Focus, meditating short times everyday let me escape my torrential thought pattern.
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Short meditation might be helpful. If we commit to short, then we can’t as easily sabotage it. Thanks for the praise, too
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Well yes, an epic journey starts wit an idea that moves the body to action
Purpose keeps the journey alive
Start with three breaths. Inhale, pause, exhale pause,
Master three and enjoy it immensely.
Reward yourself and know you are doing your best
That’s all we can do
There is no failure if we do not judge.
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We did it! 3! There is no failure if we do not judge. Oh, we love that
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Meditation is just expanding those three breaths to,four then five.
It is simple, concrete, repetitive and immediate
Awesome power is available if you keep practicing some everyday
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I try to embrace the idea of perfectly imperfect – that the really good stuff lies in the imperfections that make us the unique humans that we are. I’m very confident that you’ll be able to get on top of this. ❤️
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Admitting, “We don’t know,” feels like treason to survival. But that’s an old script from when we stopped trying to live, when we were surviving.
There is much we don’t know. We are imperfect. We make errors daily. Because we are human. “We are all one,” therapist told us today. Perfectly Imperfect. We are glad we are part of you ❤️
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That makes me glad too, and glad to be part of you. 💖
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Meditation/Mindfulness works of focus, then to use that focus to accept everything about ourselves right now.
The perfect, the imperfect, the great and the lousy
The losses and the wins
All that does not matter except to the ego or Egos we created.
Wellbeing and happiness occur when thoughts have cleared and we enter the present moment.
Those are words but to experience it, would change your paradigm
We do not need to do anything to be happy
Happy does not exist in the future and the memory of me being young and a pro jock sure is a terrible substitute for right now.
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Thanks, Marty
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Hey Ashleyleia
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It is true, it is our true nature
We all are in the journey together
Our goal is to be in this moment as much as possible free of negative thought and all judgment
Judgments are the prison. Thoughts the bars
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We understand exactly how you feel. Once we stopped drinkin’, the OCD kicked in, in high gear. It’s awful to feel like you are powerless against the obsessions.
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