Somebody left our body and noticed we were lost in delusion. They came back in and invited us into the actual world.
The actual world scares us. So we make other worlds. In these other worlds, we are usually being hurt. Usually emotionally.
The premises are:
- Predictability is best
- We should suffer
These are easy and familiar suppositions for us to support. We look for confirmation bias that we suck. Since we are human—imperfect—it’s Easy to make ourselves feel shame
Therapists and emotionally adapted folks point out that our Littles have suffered enough. Why keep punishing them?
Well, who do you think runs the delusions? Littles!
They internalized these messages
So anyone inside and outside our body who wants to help them tries to challenge and overturn the negative core beliefs that we should suffer and that unpredictable life is too dangerous
Therapy is disrupted right now. Teletherapy is not advancing our goals. So we need new ways to try to stay out of delusion, stay in the actual world, and challenge old ways of thinking
Evidence that we should Not suffer anymore: we did our best as Child, adolescent, and adult. Intentionally causing someone to suffer is violence, punishment. We want to be nonviolent to us and to others even imperfectly
This is a pretty flimsy case so far. House of cards.
Okay, do you believe there are people who deserve to be punished? We want there to be no “bad” people because we think we’d be one of them
But most of the trauma was done TO you. Being treated violently isn’t proof that you deserve it
It’s just easier this way. To let it happen. To accept the punches
Easier isn’t healthier. Just keep trying. Don’t quit
And we’ll leave it there for now