Frustrating attempts to get warring factions to communicate (no, this is not about politics)

Wow, we are making this shit up as we go; and it sounds like we might be onto something, doesn't it? 

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No buts

A somatic therapist with decades of experience encouraged me two years ago to replace "but" with "and" when I spoke to her, because so many things can be true at once. I was using "but" to refute, negate, and isolate myself. Once I started trying to replace "but" with "and," I noticed how reliant my …

My emotional safety during the holidays

Now it's time to parent myself. To provide my many Littles with the love, understanding, and safety they never received.

What are you doing? Why “Not pooping” is an insufficient response

When we were little and acted contrary to someone's expectations, we were usually chided with, "Don't ____." Don't hit. Don't swear. Don't drink grape juice in the living room. As adults, when we're trying to change a habit or practice, we often default to the same thinking: Don't judge. Don't yell. Don't eat that. We …

When to stay the course, change, or give up

When we develop a dimmer switch, we increase our options for meeting our goals.

PTSD: how we struggle and how to help

Maybe if we honk our horns less and talk to our neighbors more, we will all feel better.

You’re good at negativity because you practice so often

starting a new practice--to look for good in things or to approach situations with no expectations at all--takes conscious effort

Can you “Notice” without “Judging”?

When we judge, we label, reduce, and remove context. When we observe with specificity, we provide richness and still allow ourselves to express our values.