What change feels like

We are practicing in therapy sitting with and surviving distressing emotions. Five days. Five therapy appointments. Four consecutive days of distress. (Mondays are usually just committing up the weekend.) Change feels like getting ill. Like influenza. People often recover from influenza. We have. DID Trauma therapist says, "What if more resourced parts of you give …

When you make a mistake and no one’s there to see it

We react differently to mistakes we make when we are alone versus when other people witness our errors.

Warning: consuming this article will cause indigestion (except in Utah)

Saturated fat from the fruit of the Doofo Tree will harden your arteries faster than an Alberta Clipper freezes a puddle!

Go big or go home? Or make little changes?

Small changes can add up. For example, say you want to have more money (ideally to pay down debt, save for retirement, or go on a vacation). If you switched to a cash-back credit card, brought home lunch and beverage to work/school every day or every other day, and  made a few other tweaks, the …

Are we asleep or awake right now? Why it matters.

Practicing presence, after using dissociative states to survive for the past forty years, feels the same as if a doctor told us, "You've been living wrong all these years. Breathing air is harmful. You're supposed to be holding your breath forever, not breathing." That is how automatic dissociating has become. 

When to stay the course, change, or give up

When we develop a dimmer switch, we increase our options for meeting our goals.

How “to do” lists can hurt us and how to fix them

Put these items on our "to do" list along with our tasks and we will be better organized, prioritized, and reminded to experience life in the now.